Are You Really Listening?

Relationships are interesting, whether it’s family, partners or friendships. People can express their needs or concerns extensively without ever being heard. Or perhaps they are heard and just not taken seriously.

At some point, they stop talking, because no one is listening anyway. For women, that is crucial. Once we stop trying to express ourselves, it normally means we are mentally giving up or checking out so to speak.

Once a woman has given up on making her needs known, men tend to take it as she has stopped ‘nagging’ them. For some reason, they prefer when women are not going on about the same things they have mentioned numerous times. What they should be, is worried. Once she stops, she has decided that not only is she not being heard, but she is also accepting that you don’t care about what she is saying.

It’s interesting how quickly men will act shocked when a woman walks away from situations where she does not feel valued. It is quite easy to take your partner for granted by not making her a priority or letting everything else seem more important to you.

I often tell people to flip the script on a situation, put yourself in your partners’ shoes and tell me how you would feel if you were being treated in the manner you treat them. Sometimes they get it, sometimes they don’t. Just remember this, if your partner has stopped trying to talk to you about things that bother them, it may already be too late. If you don’t care, then let it run its course. Otherwise, pay attention, fully listen and act before it’s too late.